How do I keep him guessing after giving it up, without looking like a *****?
Ok, so I have been divorced for abt 7 months, I have 4 children and have no desire to remain a single mom. I am not desperately searching for a "daddy" for them. I am happy with my life, job, home, etc... just want someone to share life with.
So there is this guy at work. He has been divorced abt 6 months. He found out that I had a little crush on him, and we have been texting abt a month. RIght away we discussed what each other was looking for. I explained that my life is too busy for a fwb, nsa, or anything "secret"... In order for me to spend time with a man, my children need to see him as my boyfriend. Otherwise, I would want to get a sitter while I spend time with him so that they are not around him. He is just looking for friends and to hang out, nothing serious. However, in talking he is starting to show signs of developing feelings for me. We have tried several times to go out but I keep having to cancel on him. He hangs in there though thru it all. I know he doesnt talk to or see other women at all. He texts me every morning, every night and several times in the day. We finally got to go out for my birthday. He was soooooo affectionate. We slow danced to every song, held each other close. Made out all night, he calls me baby, rubs my face, etc. Well, we ended up sleeping together. Yes we were drunk. But, the next day when I dropped him off, he started texting right away "wanting more" and asking me to come get him he wanted to see me. Well, I went to see him and we made love yet again. I am obviously sooooooo into him and really hope that he develops feelings for me. Which like I said, I really really (and so do the male and female friends that went out with us) think that he is already develping some hardcore feelings. When I mentioned the fact that another guy that was with us that night was asking if I am available or with him, he said "what did you tell him, we are just friends tell him" I kinda got offended. Even though I know that we are just friends. I told him, "No, I told him that we are seeing each other but that its not serious. I don't want people thinking that I act like that with "friends"... He said "ok, baby that is fine" So, first question is where do me and him stand? How long do I keep this up bf asking for more? or do I just go with the flow? But most importantly, when it comes to other men, how do I keep him guessing and interested without looking like a *****. Bc in my opinion if I am sleeping with him, and I am pursueing other relationships or dating, I am being a *****. So my natural instinct is to be monogomous and committed bc that is just how I am. But a single guy friend of mine said that unwanted loyalty and committment will freak him out bc that is what he does not want right now. He said to go out on dates, to not always be available at the drop of a hat, but to rock his world when I do go see him. To me that is just insane, but what do I know, I have been married my whole adult life. I just really want to make the right choices with this man bc I am so interested in him, he treats me like a queen, and the lovin is amazing. so, just so you know, I am 29 and he is 33. THANKS!!!!!