How to deal with married woman's flirting?
I'm in a difficult situation and could use some advice.
I've been married to a great woman for six years, and feel like our marriage is very successful and happy. It's not without it's difficulties, but I think that's to be expected.
A little over a year ago, one of my wife's married friends began to flirt with me. She started with just little physical contact, like brushing my arm or touching me somehow. Eventually it progressed to the point where it was obvious to others what she was doing. Several people have mentioned it to me, or questioned my wife about her friend's behavior.
I am really attracted to this woman, and we have many similar interests. We get along well, and I therefore have allowed her to get away with too much.
I have let my imagination take hold of me, and I cannot get this woman out of my head. Judging by the way she acts, her constant need for my attention when we're together, and the way she looks at me, I feel like she is really attracted to me.
I will now initiate flirting with her now if she doesn't do it first.
I don't think she's the cheating type, but that doesn't stop my mind from conjuring up all sorts of scenarios.
I've told my wife about my attraction to her friend, and how her actions make me feel. She encourages me to be friends with this woman, but doesn't really know what else to say.
My question is:
How can I get control of this situation? This woman is part of our circle of friends, so I won't be able to completely avoid her.
I crave her attention, so it's very difficult to be around her.
Should I just tell her she's driving me crazy? If she thinks she's just harmlessly flirting, maybe telling her how she is making me feel will open her eyes and she'll back off.