Re: Why Cant she apologize..FOR ANYTHING?!?!
Never cheated, so I can't relate to that, but I have been in the wrong... reasons didn't say I'm sorry?
No one like admitting they are wrong... DUH that's the easy one...
Full of resentment and almost feel like "well now ya know how I feel!!!!" and want to make sure that's not forgotten.
Hate to look weak (women aren't supposed to do that)
Women are more expressive about their feelings so take men's for granted since we don't see them as much and don't realize that you hurt... maybe my experience only there, but it is what it is (not saying it's right, just what it is)
Not sorry I did it, since it inadvertently got even for something he did and didn't know what he was saying sorry for other than it got him good sex (if I bought it or gave up trying to get a real apology)
In your case.... She is truly hurt by what she did, can't stand to think about it, and apologizing makes you REALLY think about it, admit it, then go into self loathing about it so you avoid what will get you to self hate as much as you can...
Thinking in my case that lots of times it's the self hate issue.... don't want to be that person, don't want to think about that I was that person, can't stand myself for it! don't want to dredge up feeling that will take me back to that... angry at myself (and since was probably angry at him at the time I did (whatever) I don't want to go back to that either.
Not sure any of that helps, but just trying to think about things I could have apologized for and did, and trying to figure the reasons I didn't. Been thinking on that lately and I have yet to come to terms with it all myself (not cheating, but other stuff). Cheating is a huge one, and I can't relate to it.