bluesky

This basically means they had sex.
Because its easy to pick up where they left off.

Yes, they had sex again....and decided to continue it. I don't know this as a fact.....call it a hunch.

1999

Well thought id post an update. The wife hasn't met up with this male friend again yet but they appear to have been texting A LOT.

Now I know this is a horrible thing to do but I actually looked at my wifes messages to him today just to see how often they actually were texting. All the messages apart from today's had been deleted but as I guessed she had text him 30 times today alone and was even texting him while we were doing things together like going to the cinema.

Also of interest was how in the texts she had said he was in one of her dreams last night and he asked if she woke up all wet? They also joked about sharing a shower together to save water for the environment. Pretty far out of line things to be texting id say!

So although im pretty much 100% certain nothing physical has happened it seems to be close to an emotional affair already. Guess i must suck as a husband lol! What is my next move people?

typewittyusernamehere

IMO, this is super inappropriate for your wife to be saying to another man. I think she should be confronted....

2nd_t!me iz_best

they also tell just enough so you THINK she is telling you everything therefore nothing to hide.
sounds like she has LOTS to hide.

i bet she is not telling you every time they are "having lunch" together either.

personally, i would just put her out at this point. something like this is going way to far in my book.

1999

This is pretty unlikely as I work from home and she doesnt work. I also work nights so throughout the day we generally are always together. Although in the messages they did say they will have to meet up this week so I guess ill see whether she tells me about it...

2nd_t!me iz_best

keyloggers can be a very useful tool but a word to the wise:
be ready for the shock of a life time when you read the things that your SO may say to the other person, things that you didnt even think were in their vocabulary or things you didnt even think they were capable of thinking or dont use one.

MrK

Nearly 100% certain? 'Cause I'm down at around 5. And yes, it is close to an emotional affair. As a matter of fact it IS an emotional affair. She gives a lot more of her intimate time to another man than to you.

putwhittynamehere

Yeah, that's an EA.
Keylogger time.

Rob774

Keep us updated man. Your wife is playing a dangerous game, people get hurt with the actions they are causing both mentally and physically. Its a shame because it puts you into a position to only assume the worst.

Sanity

Brother she is blantantly disrespecting you and more than likely has slept with him. Dump her.

Kobo

Sucks but now you know your gut was right and you're not crazy. Now you know she is trying to play you for a fool. Time to decide how much disrespect you're going to take. From your wife and the a$$hole

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turnera

Print out some of the texts, highlight the NUMBER of them and the inappropriate parts, sit her down, show her, tell her what an Emotional Affair is. Explain that if she says something to him or he says something to her THAT SHE WOULD NOT SHOW YOU, it is cheating. Tell her you can't stay married to someone who will invest 30 texts a day with another man instead of you, and ask her to stop.

If she doesn't stop, go to her best friend, mother, or other important person, and tell that person that she's having an affair and ask them to talk to her.

If that doesn't work and she continues to contact him, expose the affair to her important people - parents, siblings, best friends - and ask them to talk to her.

Meanwhile, take a hard look at yourself and see where you may not be meeting her needs for conversation, etc., and start making changes. Give her a reason to choose you.

If, after exposure, she still refuses to stop, help her pack her bags, tell her parents you're helping her move back home, and do it.

SaffronPower

I think every couple needs an "opposite sex" friend policy that works for them.

My husband and I don't have opoosite sex friends. My best friend is my husband and I don't need another man as a friend.

This works for us because even as singles we didn't "cultivate' opposite sex friendships. The opposite sex is for dating

Oh and was it Dinner and Drinks??..oops... I think you're wife just had a date.

Set some rules now, but you might be too late.

F-102

Of course, she will just vehemently deny it, say you are too paranoid and controlling, that it's all in your head, and the good ol' "but we're just friends", and manage to blame the whole sordid situation on you.

Pack all of her stuff in a u-haul, and when she comes home, toss her the keys and say "Been good to know 'ya!"

Conrad

What else do you need to know?

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