Blue Moon

Bro... I was going to post something longer, but there's no need to overintellectualize this. I'll keep it simple. If he's not f*cking your wife already, he will be soon.

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NightEagle1981

I know where your at man. I've had those feelings for over a month. Sit your wife down and talk to her. Tell her that you don't want her talking to other guys especially the texting aspect. Next thing you know there's more than meeting going on. Do some digging, watch her closely. Depending on her phone and how tight she is with it download flexispy it records all incoming, outgoing, texts, calls, GPS, and SMS messages. How I found out about a mutual friend who was disrespecting my wife. Nip this thing in the bud before it gets out of control. Don't let her turn it into a control issue. You might also try marriage counseling as well.

1999

Ok, so two days ago I said I had seen the messages and they were totally out of order. I said the amout of messages was way over the top etc. She was really upset saying she had told him not to say the things he was saying and told me she really loved me and she was happy not to see him again because of what had happened.

So there I am all happy, ready to update here that everything looks ok and the sick feeling from my gut had finally gone! But FML, today she started crying and asking if there is any way she can still be friends with him and is annoyed that I am taking a friend away from her!

Sigh...

SaffronPower

yep she's depressed she's gotta put the guy away...you've probably read enough threads to have run into the 180 plan

sorry man

COGypsy

I don't think she's upset because it's a "friend" she's losing.

I just have to tell you--I have always been a "guys" kind of girl. I am much more comfortable with my guy friends, hanging out, watching football and making off-color jokes with them than I am going to baby showers and that kind of stuff. I've never really found more than a few girls that I could really be friends with over my life. I do honestly have guy friends, some of whom have been my friends all my life pretty much who the idea of kissing, screwing or seeing anything more than a bathing suit would show has never been a part of our "thing".

With my actual guy friends, I have NEVER made "jokes" like you were saying were in her texts. When jokes get bawdy, they're totally different from that. Like the other night, I was out with some friends and the bar ended up having some kind of karaoke contest. There were so many Joan Baez/Cindy Lauper/ Celine Dion chick ballads being sung that I mentioned being afraid that I was going to grow a third brea$t from all the estrogen in the air. Totally different tone when it is actually a friendship.

I'm sorry, I just don't for a moment believe that she can stay "friends" with this guy. And I generally have pretty liberal views on this subject, as you might imagine. But this really should be nipped in the bud or it's going to go downhill fast.

Conrad

Read the MisterNiceGuy thread - all 60 pages.

EA already moving towards PA!

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turnera

Only one thing to do at this point: "You choose to be married to me, or you choose to have him as your special friend. It won't be both."

F-102

Any way we can still be friends? Of course there is, honey, it's called a divorce!

Prodigal

I think more than a mere "sigh" is warranted here. I have men friends. I had men friends when I was married and I had men friends when I was single. Our subject matter didn't venture into the realm of sharing showers or other such sexual innuendo.

She's ANNOYED???? He!! man, this woman is playing you for a whimp, and not only a whimp, but a stupid whimp.

Tell her to get over her annoyance at losing her so-called "friend," point out the inappropriate texts, and then stand firm. Make her decide. Don't make a single threat you don't intend to follow through on. The ball is in your court. Put up with her slap-and-tickle friendship or resolve this NOW.

Frankly, I'd show her to the door and tell her not to let it hit her in the a$$ as she QUICKLY departs!

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She's in love with him. You have a problem.