03-17-2011, 04:57 PM
Join Date: Aug 2010
| | Re: Feeling anxious and jealous of my wifes male friend
I don't think she's upset because it's a "friend" she's losing.
I just have to tell you--I have always been a "guys" kind of girl. I am much more comfortable with my guy friends, hanging out, watching football and making off-color jokes with them than I am going to baby showers and that kind of stuff. I've never really found more than a few girls that I could really be friends with over my life. I do honestly have guy friends, some of whom have been my friends all my life pretty much who the idea of kissing, screwing or seeing anything more than a bathing suit would show has never been a part of our "thing".
With my actual guy friends, I have NEVER made "jokes" like you were saying were in her texts. When jokes get bawdy, they're totally different from that. Like the other night, I was out with some friends and the bar ended up having some kind of karaoke contest. There were so many Joan Baez/Cindy Lauper/ Celine Dion chick ballads being sung that I mentioned being afraid that I was going to grow a third brea$t from all the estrogen in the air. Totally different tone when it is actually a friendship.
I'm sorry, I just don't for a moment believe that she can stay "friends" with this guy. And I generally have pretty liberal views on this subject, as you might imagine. But this really should be nipped in the bud or it's going to go downhill fast.