mandy7771

My husband and I have only been married for 5 1/2 months, and I don't want to feel this way, but, I find myself wondering if we can make it. We feel more like roommates to me. We rarely have sex, or even kiss, and, it seems we just go to work, get groceries and watch some TV. On his days off, he sleeps half his day away. And, I get very frustrated when he tells me he wants up at a decent time, but, then sleeps until 1 or 2pm. Unless his mother calls, then, he'll get out of bed.

I don't initiate sex anymore -- I'm tired of the rejection. I'm tired of rejection in general, whether it's sex, or maybe we can go out for supper, or take a drive.

I just find myself so frustrated, and downright ticked off sometimes. It puts me in a sour mood, and I don't like feeling this way. I don't know how to talk about it with him without sounding accusing and confrontational.

I'd appreciate any suggestions.

COGypsy

I don't really have any suggestions, but I can tell you where you'll likely be in another 3 and a half years.

I could have written your post. it was 6 or 8 months before my husband even was interested enough in sex to consummate our marriage. I think in 4 years, we've probably had sex 3 times? I finally quit even cuddling on the couch or holding hands if he wasn't going to "put out"---it was just too much of a tease when absolutely nothing was going on otherwise.

It's one of the biggest reasons I'm planning my exit.

20/20 hindsight isn't even really helpful here, other than having attributed our incompatibilities to so many things other than having just grown too far apart that by the time we realized it all, our heels were dug in with hurt and frustration. My goal now is to keep our friendship, because we really are great friends and roommates.

So no suggestions or wisdom, but I absolutely understand how you feel. Oh, and we even have the same name!

Syrum

I would ask him is there a reason he does not want an intimate relationship with you? does he understand what it is doing to you, how it makes you feel inside/

tell him you married him because you want a close intimate life together in all ways.

Ask him to go to the Dr and to MC. If he will not do it, then leave, because it will just get worse, if he's not willing to do anything, and you will be miserable.