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How can people live ina sexless marriage/relationship? I seriously do not get it...
3 weeks without it just forget a bout 2 months? living and sleep in the same bedroom? I do not get it!!!
I have lived with 3 different women in different relationships in my past and now I am married 2 yrs but still I do not get it!
And yes I am a also a father and a GOOD FATHER, but still do not get it!
as long as it just decline, then I know there is something to be fixed soon, whether is me or her but something is up to be fixed! I do not get it how people could go that long...do not get it!!!
I think i could get over it if it was a physicl/medical reason, something real, but I would also have to have something in the place of. It's too much fun for me, and it is a big part of keeping fun in a relationship.
I think i could get over it if it was a physicl/medical reason....It's too much fun for me, and it is a big part of keeping fun in a relationship.
I can not live with a person in a sexless life.
That is why a man and a woman created and so marriage is between the 2 different sexes in order to have sex.
No marriage for friends have been invented so far, so If friends...I have enough, I can have a friend at home to live with.
I don't know. Maybe some people, even though they miss the sex and want it, feel they have other things in their life/marriage that outweigh that of not having sex VS getting divorced. I don't know.
Callalilly provided my answer. I am 32 and have gone a considerable amount of time without it (I can't type the number because you won't believe me).
After a while you just get numb to it. And your anger and resentment overcome you. So you channel that energy into other things. Not saying I haven't wanted to stray because that thought crosses my mind regularly...it's human nature to want it.
I get where you're coming from sinnister! i feel like i'm constantly begging my husband for sex...and the one time i do get it, he's not really interested like i'm forcing him to do some horrible chore!
straying has definitely crossed my mind, i don't understand why anyone wouldn't want it unless they themselves are straying =/
In my case I think my resentment toward my husband has become so bad that I just don't want it. I should probably file for divorce, but fear of many issues stops me. I miss it sometimes, but miss the intimacy and closeness more. I have just decided this is how I will probably be from now on and I try to find other things to spend my time on. I know my husband wants it more and he gets mad about it, so maybe he will file for divorce.
No sex = It would be a severe "Deal Breaker" for me personally. Even back in the day when I was not sex craved, I still "needed" it at least once a week.
I emotionally NEED my husbands desire and he NEEDS to feel mine for him. Nothing in this life can even compare , this is what makes us "one" in our hearts, a connection not easily broken. Without this, everything begins to wither.
Me and my wife, have sex 4-5 days a week and in some of those days twice or 3 times a day. Average 8-9 times a week. She is crazy and horny about me, same as me! AND WE HAVE A CHILD but that never stop or reduce our sex life!
We love, adore, respect and attracted to each other. We are most adventurous and spontaneous creatures!
Me & my husband used to be "vanilla" once a weekers, cause we were foolish & repressed. Now we are 4-6 times a week, been this way for the past 2 & a half years, I even keep a sex calender to see how long this can last, as we are getting older. Happiest times of our lives.
The difference in our communication & openness (on his end especially) has been pretty amazing, so desirous happening sex brings many additional benefits.
I used to be grouchier back in the day- I am convinced now I needed "layed" more often & just didn't know it! He wasn't as happy before either & took it out on the kids.
Tasting of this type of happiness, one would have a hard time ever settling for less. But I know as we grow older, this pace will slow little by little. Thank heavens for Viagra! I want it to last forever.
Me & my husband used to be "vanilla" once a weekers, cause we were foolish & repressed. Now we are 4-6 times a week, been this way for the past 2 & a half years, I even keep a sex calender to see how long this can last, as we are getting older. Happiest times of our lives.
The difference in our communication & openness (on his end especially) has been pretty amazing, so desirous happening sex brings many additional benefits.
I used to be grouchier back in the day- I am convinced now I needed "layed" more often & just didn't know it! He wasn't as happy before either & took it out on the kids.
Tasting of this type of happiness, one would have a hard time ever settling for less. But I know as we grow older, this pace will slow little by little. Thank heavens for Viagra! I want it to last forever.
Good that you have realized and made the change. Enjoy and keep on having fun Sex is wondeful!
How can people do it? I do not get it 
He wasn't as happy before either & took it out on the kids. 
