Men: do you find your W as attractive after having children?
I was having a chat with some friends yesterday. One of them is married, with no children but they are planning to get pregnant.
Now, this lady is in her late twenties and very attractive. She puts a lot of work into looking good, and naturally has a fantastic figure, petite but hourglass, very flat stomach and great boobs. Her husband is extremely proud and loves showing her off.
She was telling me that although they want to have children, the one thing that is putting him off is that her body is going to change. We were talking about it, she seems quite accepting of what might happen, for example stretch marks and putting on weight. She is worried that he might not find her as attractive because of it though.
Now, what I was wondering is how do men out there view the changes that happen to a woman when she has a baby- that is, the physical changes? Do men still view their wife as attractive even if, say, she gets stretch marks? Puts on a little weight? Has a baby belly? Does it affect desire at all? Do you still find her attractive, but being honest not quite as much? Have you or would you request that she maybe went on a diet, checked out her eating habits, or started going to the gym to either get rid of excess weight or tone up that belly? Or would you be accepting of small changes and take it as part and parcel of becoming a mother?
Now, for me it has been slightly different as I had two children when I met OH so he's seen my body post-children, just now it is more children! I have been lucky in not getting any stretch marks but I always put on some weight when baby is small and I am breastfeeding- not an excessive amount by any stretch but I can point it out and it gradually goes once baby is established on solids and not having as much milk. OH has never expressed much opinion when asked except he's glad I don't have massive purple stretch marks!
I wasn't sure what to say to my friend except she can always work on her body after if she's worried and see any more permanent changes as a "badge of honour".
So what DO men think?