Im hurting

Robglenn · 03-12-2011, 10:05 AM

I have pushed my lady away from me. She is the most amazing women I have ever met. 3 years,1 the best of my life, 2 hell, but I love her so deeply she says she needs time away and that she wants to bail. She still wears her ring. I am so hurt, the pain of losing her is to much it seems. Do you think there is still a chance that we will get back together? I love her more than anything. I have been such an ahole.

Jamison · 03-12-2011, 10:14 AM

Need more details. Exactly how were you to her? What did you do to push her away?

Robglenn · 03-12-2011, 10:32 AM

Anger! I let it rule me acting before I think, physical, emotional abuse. I AM GUILTY! There is alot that lead up to where we are, like a separation from hell that seen my ex taking me to court repeatedly, my children hating her and her kids. We have two children of our own and apprenticeships for the same job, we work together. I have been in A.A. for 3 weeks and have really came to terms with my addiction and I want to stop. To many times it seems that I am to blame for our fights and I just lose myself in my anger.

Jamison · 03-12-2011, 10:36 AM

I would say, continue on with AA! It might be benifical for you as well, to get some help for your anger issues. You will need to prove yourself to your wife if you want her back, but first of all you need to prove yourself to you! However, that doesn't mean she will take you back. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and fixing you.

feylovelyheart · 03-12-2011, 10:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Jamison

I would say, continue on with AA! It might be benifical for you as well, to get some help for your anger issues. You will need to prove yourself to your wife if you want her back, but first of all you need to prove yourself to you! However, that doesn't mean she will take you back. You need to focus on taking care of yourself and fixing you.

I totally agree with Jamison. You should focus on controlling your anger. My husband also has problem with his anger. he cannot control his anger and he does not want to. he thinks he has any right to get angry.

I can understand how your wife feels. it is hard to live with someone who cannot control their anger. I cannot totally blame you. you have the issue that you have to work on it. At least I try to understand my H's situation but cannot deny the fact that it is hard...

if you can control your anger and your wife sees it hopefully she will know that you are willing to do anything to make the relationship works.

Wishes you the best luck.

Robglenn · 03-12-2011, 11:42 AM

Its so hard to stop thinking that I have lost her. I know though that I must start getting my head straight cuz thats where life begins. Its just so hard to keep focus! I love her so much and I am so ashamed of how I have treated her, I just want to hold her again!

SaffronPower · 03-12-2011, 02:19 PM

Of course there is hope. Takes time though. Let her have her space. Work on yourself. Be the man she'll be proud of bring with forever. It's a good sign you're ashamed. It means you can change. Good luck.