03-14-2011, 12:56 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | How do you deal with an Addictive Personality??
My husband goes through an addictive cycle.
Phase 1: he's addicted to alcohol. He will spend $10 or more a day on beer and buy bottle of liquor here and there. Since we are just newly weds we are BROKE. Not only does this cause us to fight about money, but about his health. I also get tired of him getting drunk every night.
Phase 2: He will start Dipping. So now he's a drunken dipper. Now I worry about his teeth, cancer, jaw being taken off etc. I really don't nag on him about it, but deep down it's disgusting. After 6 months or so he will quit.
Once he quits he goes to Phase 3: Obsessed with working out and internet. Working out is great! Good for his health and something active. But he will stay on the internet ALL day everyday and is lazy as can be. I can't even have a decent conversation with him. Let alone watch t.v or a movie with him. This makes me feel so alone and depressed. I've talked to him about it, but he makes me feel like it's my problem.
Phase 4: Can't stop spending money. Once again money issues. I've tried showing him what we have and what he can spend... no use.
There are other things he becomes addicted to, but these are our main issues.
Overall, I love my husband, he's a great person and very loving(if he pays attention to me), but I don't know how to handle his addictions. His addictions will always be number 1 and I don't expect him to change who he is, but meet me in the middle. I try to just deal with it or ignore it, but it makes me so unhappy which, obviously, effects our marriage.
Please be honest and I would appreciate any advice that's being given. It would be nice to know if anyone can relate...