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Old 03-15-2011, 02:26 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Warning: You might find this thread very disturbing. I'd once come cross to a book that offered cheating tips. I went through and only remember few tips of them. Not to promote cheating, I haven't physically cheated yet, but if you're already in the middle of a PA, I would love to share some personal views!
Many ppl have tried to cheat but got caught by their spouses. As a result, cheating once gets caught would seriously damaged many aspects in a marriage that sometimes has nothing to do with sex but with kids. You would hate to deal with it. I'm sure you know very well the risk but why cheat? Is cheating part of a human nature that goes against monogamy? Married men or women, we all know, cheating happens everywhere and everyday. Yes, marriage vows told them can't cheat but why they cheat?
Excuses or some facts? When your spouse is not responsive sexually, aren't marriage vows broken in the first place? Vows are not just about faith, but also love, respect and care. When a spouse ignores and disrespects the other spouse's sexual needs. The vows have been broken already. How many spouses out there are truely able to endure loneliess for the rest of their lives? Who said it's a choice not to cheat? Do we really have a choice not to feel lonely and horny? Do we really have a choice not to have the desired for being loved passionatedly and lustfully? Can you distinguish your lust and forever musterbate? Why you're the one who broke the vows when your spouse is constantly cold and your spouse is free from judgement?
Yes, one can control one's behavior but one'll be unhappy, frustated, and unsatisfied forever.
In the end, cheating is the way to give constant unsatisfaction a break, a temporary excitement with a little happiness . The only problem is your spouse would hate you to have such break. Why?
Love is selfish, your spouse won't let you have a delicious cake and eat it.
Your spouse would hate to know you're sexually happy with someone else because your spouse cares about her/his happiness the most, not your happiness.

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Old 03-15-2011, 02:38 AM   #2 (permalink)
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Oh, I almost forgot to share the tips:
1. Keep your mouth shut! Don't tell anyone including your best friend or family members. The mouth must be totally zipped.
2. Date your affair far away from home.
3. Don't leave any clue. Phone contact, email, facebook, internet communication is very easy to get caught.
So, use a public phone, use passwords, codes that only you and your affairs understand.
4. Don't say stupid lies that easy to be found out to your spouse.
5. Pay cash, avoid using credit cards.
6. Be a supportive spouse. You still need to be a hard working person, loving spouse, parent.
Don't make cheating bring negative effects to damage your family.
Sex and family are two different things so make sure your affair follows this rule well. You will have to cut right off with your affair if she/he starts to request you impossible things.

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"love is selfish, your spouse won't let you have a delicious cake and eat it too". Then maybe a person shouldn't be married.
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LOL is marriage only about having sex with your spouse?

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I told my husband marriage is not about to lock your cok in a jail only for my pussx, but make sure you always put on a condom and NEVER pass any disease to me.
I won't get divorced even if one day I discover a PA of my husband. It would be weird if my husband is a saint.
It's very stupid that because of sex, a family/marriage collapses, what is your fundation of your marriage? Sex?

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I told my husband marriage is not about to lock your cok in a jail only for my pussx, but make sure you always put on a condom and NEVER pass any disease to me.
I won't get divorced even if one day I discover a PA of my husband. It would be weird if my husband is a saint.
It's very stupid that because of sex, a family/marriage collapses, what is your fundation of your marriage? Sex?

Thats like saying "what is the foundation of marriage? Paying bills? Staying sober? Doing work around the house?"

Anyway the one night stand is the secret to not getting caught. Any type of continuous behavior will be found out by someone paying attention.
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Old 03-15-2011, 06:43 AM   #7 (permalink)
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The secret to not getting caught is...

Don't cheat.

No marriages are not built on sex alone, they are built supposedly on love, trust, communication, giving, receiving, time, effort, support, intimacy, sex, work, respect and so on.

cheating destroys many of the things marriages are built on, so cheating is not just about sex.

If your spouse is that selfish that they don't care about your emotional or physical well being then you need to learn to communicate and try and work it out.

If you are going to break your vows and cheat, you should just break your vows and move on, and not be a selfish liar.
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lack of sex is rarely the reason people cheat. lack of sex is a result of a lot of other things wrong in a marriage.

the answer to those things that aren't working is neither withholding sex not looking for sexual fulfillment elsewhere. I cheated and I know it was the wrong thing to do.

the right thing to do is address the issues and if they can't be fixed, you weigh whether you can live with things the way they are or make changes, openly and fairly.
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Must have either been written by a bitter man or a bitter woman, who think cheating is the answer.
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the right thing to do is address the issues and if they can't be fixed, you weigh whether you can live with things the way they are or make changes, openly and fairly.
What Chris said. AND as an added benefit you get to look at yourself and not see a deceitful person lacking in character enough to be honest. Sorry Chris. Hopefully recognizing you did the wrong thing, you have done the best you can at remedy and amends and can forgive yourself and look in that mirror again with confidence. But when you are looking to START cheating, I cannot fathom how you can not even think about what that does to your sense of character.

Get right or get out, imo.
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Thanks for your comments! Some comments are very down to earth, some comments are only for those who probably don't live on earth.

Sorry again if you find this thread disturbing. Please ignore this thread if you have a life standard as a saint and you believe everybody should think like a saint.

I'm pointing out a brutal honest truth that cheating happens everyday. If you can remove the lust from human beings, you can wish people don't cheat. You can also use religion to control people's behaviors but not everybody is religious.

To tell people don't cheat is like to tell a person to endure the sexual hunger. Are you going to be rewarded a golden metal for being stupidly faithful to your cold ass spouse?

When divorce isn't an option, that's why people cheat. When divorce is an option, people get divorced really fast. If you ask why people choose to be a liar, it's a nonsense question because divorce isn't an option!

In a marriage, there are many issues in sex or trust or whatever, there're kids issues as well!

Cheating itself doesn't destroy any of those issues until the moment you're caught!

Then your angry spouse will bring up all these issues and put them together until they become an overwhelming disaster! That's the risk/cost you must pay for cheating!

If you have an affair now, it's too late, so make sure you don't get caught because your spouse is gonna kill you and torture you emotionally only because you have some fun with someone else even it's protected sex.

So remember the rule # 1 keep your mouth zipped!

Don't care about what other people think. They don't care your marriage is destroyed. They don't care you lose the custody of your kids and they don't care your family damaged.

They always tell you to be a saint, or try to get out of the marriage if your cold ass spouse remains cold, which is somehow, funny.

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Thanks for your comments!

Sorry again if you find this thread disturbing. Please ignore this thread if you have a life standard as a saint and everybody should think like a saint.

I'm pointing out a brutal honest truth that cheating happens everyday.

To tell people don't cheat is like to tell a person to endure the sexual hunger.
No one said anything of the sort. People said fix your marriage problems or leave and get sex from someone else HONESTLY.


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When divorce isn't an option, I somehow agree ONS is a good option.
When is divorce not an option? Citing kids is a lame excuse. Cheating, modeling deceit, is not in the best interest of children. Modeling a useless marriage is not in the best interest of the kids.
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Warning: You might find this thread very disturbing. I'd once come cross to a book that offered cheating tips. I went through and only remember few tips of them. Not to promote cheating, I haven't physically cheated yet, but if you're already in the middle of a PA, I would love to share some personal views!
Many ppl have tried to cheat but got caught by their spouses. As a result, cheating once gets caught would seriously damaged many aspects in a marriage that sometimes has nothing to do with sex but with kids. You would hate to deal with it. I'm sure you know very well the risk but why cheat? Is cheating part of a human nature that goes against monogamy? Married men or women, we all know, cheating happens everywhere and everyday. Yes, marriage vows told them can't cheat but why they cheat?
Excuses or some facts? When your spouse is not responsive sexually, aren't marriage vows broken in the first place? Vows are not just about faith, but also love, respect and care. When a spouse ignores and disrespects the other spouse's sexual needs. The vows have been broken already. How many spouses out there are truely able to endure loneliess for the rest of their lives? Who said it's a choice not to cheat? Do we really have a choice not to feel lonely and horny? Do we really have a choice not to have the desired for being loved passionatedly and lustfully? Can you distinguish your lust and forever musterbate? Why you're the one who broke the vows when your spouse is constantly cold and your spouse is free from judgement?
Yes, one can control one's behavior but one'll be unhappy, frustated, and unsatisfied forever.
In the end, cheating is the way to give constant unsatisfaction a break, a temporary excitement with a little happiness . The only problem is your spouse would hate you to have such break. Why?
Love is selfish, your spouse won't let you have a delicious cake and eat it.
Your spouse would hate to know you're sexually happy with someone else because your spouse cares about her/his happiness the most, not your happiness.

Please tell me you are kidding. If not, be a decent human being and dump your partner so you can deal with your sexual frustrations. Partner not giving up enough for you? I get it. Just let him/her go and let them find a person capable of a mature relationship.
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Getting married is like placing all your bets on your spouse and keep your finger crossed and pray that your spouse is always hot & good in bed for you.

Some people are lucky.

Some people are neglected for years!

Some people are literally kicked out of the bed.

Sometimes, it's not always sexual unsatisfaction, but most of times, it is.

The funny thing is if you're the loyal spouse being cheated even though you didn't give much sex and you have neglected your spouse for years, but never mind, everybody will blame your cheating spouse by principle.

Can someone help me understand this double standard?

Marriage vows is only about having sex with the right person?

The love and care parts of the vows are not important?

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Thats like saying "what is the foundation of marriage? Paying bills? Staying sober? Doing work around the house?"

Anyway the one night stand is the secret to not getting caught. Any type of continuous behavior will be found out by someone paying attention.
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