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Old 03-19-2011, 12:20 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I'm in a very bad marriage.....period!!! From all aspects it is bad, and it will not get any better, trust me.

I want out. My husband will not change, nor will I.

So, I don't have insurance to cover the cost of $200.00 per hour to see a counselor.............so why spend the money to see one, when basically they will only want you to go see them several times at $200.00 a pop, only to probably tell you that you need to be the one to make up your mind to divorce.

Someone help me here on this one.
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Old 03-19-2011, 01:04 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Sorry about your situation. The fact that you are posting this means that you are drained and bleeding emotionally. If you can't afford MC try taking to a few good friends and family and get some different perspective.

Leaving a bad marriage is one of the easiest decisions you can ever make; getting the strength to execute it is the hardest part. Your strength comes from your self confidence, education, faith, friends and family. Good luck and I hope it works out.
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Old 03-19-2011, 01:05 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I'm in a very bad marriage.....period!!! From all aspects it is bad, and it will not get any better, trust me.

I want out. My husband will not change, nor will I.
Honestly those statements say it all. It's not worth it in your situation. You are approaching counseling with a negative attitude, neither of you are willing to change, and your mind is made up. Counseling only works when both spouses are willing to save their marriages. I guess your money will be going towards a divorce attorney.....

BTW many counselors will adjust their fees to accommodate a budget for those without insurance. I know my therapist was only charging one patient $35 per session. It never hurts to ask.
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Old 03-19-2011, 01:19 PM   #4 (permalink)
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It definitely is a matter of priorities.

If you're so angry that you can't invest, say, $1,000 in your marriage, then so be it.

What instead will you use the money to do?

That would be a telling indicator of your mindset.
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Old 03-19-2011, 02:21 PM   #5 (permalink)
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It's very pricey...but the demands are high. There're always couples who can afford it because MC gives them hope to work on marriage with professionals. At least you try...
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If you scroll down to "in a bad marriage" and read that one, then I think you would understand why I think it is hopeless.
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If you scroll down to "in a bad marriage" and read that one, then I think you would understand why I think it is hopeless.
I did, so if it is as bad as you say, then just walk away from it.
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Old 03-19-2011, 08:37 PM   #8 (permalink)
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Many also take insurance. Check it out. I am so sorry you are frustrated and hurting, but follow these great suggestions, and talk, talk, talk it out/through with someone you know loves you and has your best interest at heart. I wish you clarity and peace
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