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Old 03-20-2011, 10:28 AM   #1 (permalink)
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Me and the wife had some problems latelly (see confussed in GA) they seem to all be worked out now after a 21st bday party for my brother where i ended up getting a lap dance from a girl at the party. At first i thought wife might have relized the pain of seeing me with another woman because at the party i talked to this girl alot as well. Now IDK wth kinda door i have opened lol. Wife has been all over me and thats great...but last night i was asked if i would be mad if the wife invited the girl i was messing around with at the party over for a 3 some. Ok ive known this girl like 3 days and yes im a guy the idea of a 3 some sounds nice but with the problems we have had in the past will this hurt my marriage? im down for it as long as its not a weight on my marriage but im scared to tell the wife hey lets wait without making her mad and her going back into a flirting behind my back mood. WTH have i done? WTH do i do? any advice?
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Old 03-21-2011, 01:31 PM   #2 (permalink)
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Here is my two cents. DONT DO IT!

I have known several people that have done this and they are all divorced now. It never works. If your wife wants to spice things up there are other ways to do that.

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Old 03-21-2011, 01:36 PM   #3 (permalink)
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it's a trick... get the axe

serious though

you may have a green light by all accounts. It may seem like the greatest day of your life. Your wife may bring her over and say she is great with it....


now this is just me (anyone that wants to chime in...)

most women want to feel like the only girl in the world to their man. You could get years of good by saying that she (wife) is all you ever wanted or needed.
or... one really fun night with all kinds of (overt or covert, we don't know yet) lasting ill effects
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Old 03-21-2011, 02:15 PM   #4 (permalink)
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This just sounds like trouble to me. Say NO
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Old 03-21-2011, 03:10 PM   #5 (permalink)
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I think your w is looking to even *her* playing field.

If you get yours then she can get hers. so stay away from the 3some enless you don't mind sharing your wife with other guys.

I feel this is a set up on your W part in order for her to go out and get some, she will continue to throw this back in your face when ever you have an issue with her behavior with regards to her and OM's.

Rules and boundries would need to be set in place, but I think its way to heavy on the marriage, especialy if she has had some past experiences that were questionable.

Again I think she's looking for leveage on munipulating you.
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Old 03-21-2011, 11:04 PM   #6 (permalink)
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Well ive always been iffy on the 3 some deal...thank you all for the input imma hold my ground on this issue and decline the offer though and though after all I do love my wife and what more could another girl offer me in the bed room that she cant? Gonna stand my ground on the issues a lap dance is as far as im going with another woman who is not my wife ever. Thanks for the input and yeah the idea of it kinda clouded the judgement a bit on the issue
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