inapporpriate (IMO) jokes at work..what do i do if anything
ok, I've stated before my wife works with all men at a construction office, she started in Sept. I am comfortable to a point with this, EXCEPT with one guy always telling her crude jokes. Now he is the husband of her best friend, but I don't think it is appropriate and told her so, and her response was, Oh its just "Bob being Bob and its ALWAYS just with me in the room".
Ok fine. She told me a couple of months ago one of his jokes and how everybody laughed, but that it was funny because the 2 other guys (who are partners with Bob), kind of looked at my wife uncomfortably as they didn't know how she would take it.
She laughed it off.
I told her it bothered me and she got upset and told me i needed medication as it was just the one time. Now she tells me he does it all the time, but again, now its just the 2 of them in the room.
And to add to that, Bob also called my wife on Valentines Day, after working hours, just to tell her that he was in the lingerie dept at some store "..looking for something sexy to wear for his wife b4 they had crazy sex that night"
She told me and I asked why is he calling you talking about sex with his wife? and she again got po'ed and said I needed to chill and get on some meds.
Again, this would probably bother me BUT she also is on the phone a lot with other women who are also friends with Bob and his wife and she just goes on and on about how cute and funny Bob is and smart etc etc.
We talked about that also, and she again say I need meds.
is it me do I need medication or is she being disrespectful to me?
One side note: she was great friends with another woman, Italian as am I, about 3 years ago, this woman and I got along great, she would hug me every time I would come home from work and she was over and we actually had a coupe of things in common so I would join in their conversation. One day, my wife just told us "enough of that sh.." as far as the hugging went, told her and me both that she thought I enjoyed it too much.
She stopped coming by after that and when I would see her and her husband out usually at our kids ball games or grocery store, she would always ask me first if my wife was around then hug me hello and good bye.
Now her husband still says hello, but she keeps her distance so I am thinking my wife may have said something to her again.
Yet it is fine for her to hug all over this guy "Bob" who is so funny and cute etc. is this normal or again is it me?