Re: The Way She Dresses
Women dress provocatively to make themselves feel good. But it's not the clothing itself that makes them feel good. It's the attention they get from men that makes her feel good. This attention can be subtle, body language, facial expressions, non sexual touches and harmless conversation all the way to overt sexual flirting. It makes her feel good to be noticed because by being noticed she feels special, unique, pretty.
So your first course of business is for you, her man, to give her all the feelings that she is getting by dressing provocatively. The needs she has are so powerful that you will not be able to simply talk her out of dressing this way. She needs to have the feelings she gets from it and you have to give them to her. She wants you to be the one to give it to her.
Regarding a conversation about getting her to stop.... You have to be very careful with this. While she may throw out the word controlling or something similar, what she is feeling is that her man is threatened by other men and therefore her man is weaker and less manly than other men. So, unless you feel that your wife is cheating or about to cheat, I would leave it alone until you feel you have adequately met the needs she is longing for. Once you do this, you then say "Wife, I don't believe married women should wear X, Y, Z types of clothing". You express your opinion, and let her come to make the choice.