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Old 03-22-2011, 01:02 PM   #1 (permalink)
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On Saturday, my girlfriend's husband of 40 years, played a cruel joke on her. She became so anxiety-stricken, that her stomach ached, and she was too embarrass to participate in the afternoon tea that she was giving at their home. I was there to assist in preparing the goodies. Her husband swore me to secrecy, stating that she needed to learn to organize her time more efficiently. In retrospect, I see his 'joke' as an angry action levied against her. She became really ill. I feel bad that I didn't rattle off and tell her as I am known to do. This was one time when not keeping a secret would have been the better decision. I telephoned on last night (Monday) and she stated that she was feeling better. I regret being placed in the middle of their spat. Any opinions about the 'anger' dart?
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Old 03-22-2011, 01:23 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I don't understand. It would help if you gave a little more context around what kind of joke he played on her?
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Tell them to leave you out of their own little power-struggles? No promises to secrecy; if they want to tell you something, it won't be a secret. Apologize to your friend, and tell her it won't happen again. Why would you be loyal to her husband and not to her?

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Old 03-22-2011, 03:19 PM   #4 (permalink)
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He hide a cake from her. It had been baked for her, especially for the Tea. He had picked up the cake the evening before, as she had promised the baker she'd ask him to do. He intimidates her so after asking once, and being told 'no', she assumed he wouldn't. He picked up the cake after all, and instead of sharing this with her so that she wouldn't have to schedule driving 20 miles and back, he hide it in a cabinet. I happened to see him hide it, and he made me swear not the tell. She ran around frantically on Saturday, worried crazy about not having the cake. When she arrived at the baker's house, she was told that her husband had picked it up. He dis-respected her time, but wanted to teach her a lesson in time management.
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I've known them both for several years. They care for my daughter when I travel oveseas or for prolonged periods of time. They can be like 'family'.
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