So why can't the wife flip this around and be sexual when she is not "horny for sex?". In fact it's even more ludicrous that a wife cannot muster the energy for sex given that it is a pleasurable act, whereas domestic support is not a pleasurable act. So, if a wife is interested in the long term good of her marriage, and her life, and her happiness, she should easily find the motivation to engage with her husband in an act that is pleasurable to her, and demonstrates love to him.
because (most)women have to feel loved and appreciated to want to have sex with someone.
Also after a long day with little or no help finally crawling into bed(having not had the chance to even shower that day) with baby puke on your nightgown, you really don't feel that sexy. Instead what you crave is some peace and quite "down time"...and sadly way too many stay at home mommies with young children don't ever get down time.
That is how I felt when I had young children. I would take care of the kids all day long, make dinner, clean dinner up, do baths....do the night time feeding and then crawl into bed exhausted and stinky!
I was too exhausted and drained to even consider sex.
Now if just one night my husband had offered to clean up dinner, give the kids a bath and put them to bed so I could go take a nice long hot bath....guess what, he would've gotten sex that night....but sadly that never happened!
Instead I would do it all and crawl into bed stinky and tired and when he'd try to make a move I seriously wanted to chop his hands off!