03-24-2011, 01:37 AM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Really Stupid Problem
I am having a very peculiar problem in my married life. I would be interested in knowing if someone has faced this ever before and if so how did they resolved it. Me and my wife are married for last 7 years and have been quite happy in our married lie (well atleast I think so). When I and my wife first met I was still in college while she had left school and was working at a local departmental store.
When I completed my B.S and finally landed in a decent job we got married. Since, we both wanted a child me and her mutually decided that she’ll quit her job as I was earning enough that she could afford to stay at home. In the last seven years few things have changed dramatically I got promoted multiple times changed jobs and can afford a much more comfortable living for me, my wife and daughter. All this time my wife stayed at home raising our daughter and she is really good at that.
However, over the period of time I don’t know why she has started developing doubts about herself. She constantly thinks we two are class apart; I am far superior then her carrier wise, she is no longer beautiful, where shell when I leave her and above all I am cheating on her.
I tried to made her understand that leaving her would be more like committing suicide as I am more logistically dependent on her then she is on me( I don’t cook, clean or do any household chores) but she never understands my point of view. Last week I asked her if she is so concerned about her looks she should visit a detox and skin rejuvenation clinic nearby she responded by the most horrendous statement I have heard in my life “I don’t want to pickup expensive habits that I cannot afford in long run when I am forced to live on my own”.
Has anyone been in such a situation before if at all I have a few questions for you to help me with.
My questions to you all are:
1. How can I convince my wife that I am not cheating on her and I don’t plan to dump her ever.
2. I still love her and if she has grown old I haven’t got any younger. Infact I have developed a beer belly.
3. She doesn’t need to find work for herself as I take full responsibility of my family.