what to do...

jennyc · 09-19-2008, 02:06 PM

what do you do when someone breaks the truth in the relationship? Can you get it back? How? I recently found out my bf (now ex after I found out) has been telling me various lies. He didn't cheat on me, but one of the lies was that he's been calling his ex and I only found out cuz i looked at his phone records. When I confronted him, he did admit it and said a reason why hes been talking to her, which is bs for all i care..and a bunch of other 'little white lies.' Now I find it impossible to trust him and he keeps asking for another chance. How can I give it to him when I lost my respect and faith in him? That's what he's not understanding. He said he'll be willing to give me his cell phone, all his pw's and everything if i take him back. But, i don't want to be that crazy detective girl who constantly has to keep tabs on everything. What to do?

draconis · 09-20-2008, 01:42 AM

You have to ask yourself what type of life you want to live. Do you want to trust him and expect that he will stay to his word that he has never kept before? Do you want him to lead an open life so that you can check on him when you want to see if he is lying?

The real questions are for you to answer,

How much is he worth it?

What are you willing to accept?

WHat boundries are you going to communicate with him?

draconis