03-26-2011, 03:23 PM
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: My side of the street
| | Re: I want him back!! Please help!
How old are you - 20? 21? You've got a lot of living ahead of you. I can absolutely guarantee you that the person you are right now will NOT be the same person you will be 10 years from now. We evolve. We change. That's life.
This guy may be Mr. Right. On the other hand, you owe it to yourself and to him to give him the space he apparently wants at this time.
Since you have a distance problem, why not allow yourself to exercise your freedom and date around? Your bf is not the only man on earth for you, although it may seem so right now.
Marriage is extremely hard work. I know lots of girls who married their college "soul mate" as soon as they graduated. Guess what? Not one of them has said to me, "Gee, I'm really glad I got married right out of college; best thing I ever did." These women are in their 40's now, with their own kids going off to college. The one thing I have consistently heard from them is this: "I wish I had waited a few more years before I got married."
If your bf is the right man for you, it will happen. Badgering a guy and trying to fix things immediately can assure you that he will back off. Guys don't like being hassled and they REALLY don't like it if they sense any sort of desperation.
I refuse to make anyone a priority in my life who considers me nothing more than an option.
You can't start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.