03-28-2011, 10:37 AM
Join Date: Sep 2010
Originally Posted by unbelievable
Do you share with this OM, things you would not say to him in front of your husband? Do you discuss secrets you should share only with your husband? Do you hide or try to hide your communications from your husband? Violations of intimacy don't always involve sex and some of the most damaging have nothing to do with sex. A real friend would want you to be as happy as possible in your marriage. Every day, you work on your marriage. You are either working to make it better or you're working to destroy it. You have to decide how this OM fits into that equation.
If this OM is providing some emotional need that you should be getting from your husband, it's probably not healthy. In such a case, the better move would be to teach your husband to provide that emotional support.
What can I hide from my husband?
My husband gets all what I can provide, such as love, time, commitments, affection and food I cook!
The OM instead only gets a little attention from me, just a greeting.
Am I being too nice to the OM? He wouldn't agree that we're having an EA, because he didn't feel or get a thing from me except the very pathetic greeting.
Last edited by friendly; 03-28-2011 at 10:41 AM.