Life is about choices and I now know from personal experience that its not so much who we attract but who we let in.
Originally Posted by AgentD
I totally agree about choices and whether we let certain people in our life. However, I also think that whether we let those people in our not, something had to attract them to flock to us to begin with.
That's true, but I what I think Sanity is saying is that while we can't exactly control who is attracted to us, we CAN control how we react to that attraction.
For example, my wife has a friend who is a beautiful woman (she seriously looks like Angelina Jolie) who is hit on all the time by all sorts of men, many of whom I knew to be really great, stand up men. But she doesn't pick those guys.
She picks losers. Not even "bad boys," just losers who pretty much all abuse her emotionally. So lots of guys were attracted to her, and a lot of them even made attempts to get her attention. But, because of one reason or another, the men she chooses to allow into her life make it worse, and she has to take at least some responsibility because she keeps making these poor choices again and again.
To put it another way... say you have two bowls in front of you: one filled with gumballs and one filled with marbles, but otherwise completely indistinguishable from one another. If you reach into one bowl, grab something, pop it into your mouth and crack your tooth, you can say you made a mistake. But if you keep reaching into that same bowl multiple times and keep chipping your teeth... well, you can't exactly blame the bowl for that, can you?