Re: New here, and need help please!
Rob is 100% right! This was my story, to a T, 10 years ago, with twins where one was diagnosed with autism and the other a much more serious illness that required monthly hospitalizations for many years.
I did EVERYTHING in that household; the kids, doctor appointments, cleaning, taking out the trash, dealing with vehicle problems, etc. My hubby worked 8-10 hours a day, came home, and was done. Checked out. I'm just seething for you, Pynk, because this is the entire root of my resentment and a big reason I just told my H I want a divorce.
You are beyond stressed out, and you need his help, but don't know any other way to ask him or force him to step up, and you probably feel like even if he did help it would be forced and he'd make you feel bad you asked him.
Unfortunately, I have no answers for you, because by the time my H realized what he'd done it was too late for us. I don't care that I have two special needs kids and a 3 year old. I did everything for them myself and I can keep doing it by myself. Getting rid of the problem (H), is just one less stress issue for me to deal with.
In his defense, I do need to say that this was 10 years ago, and just in the past few months he's changed his ways, mostly because he is disabled and home 24/7 now, and can see how much work I do, but at this point the resentment has built up and it's too little too late.
I hope you can get your H to step up one way or another, Pynk, or you WILL end up like us. You can only take so much for so long before you break.