Re: Lack of Affection/Sex Enough to Derail a Marriage?
I'm sorry you are going through this.
I agree with everyone, it will not get better on its own. As they say, sex is a small part of a happy marriage, but if its bad, its everything. Something along those lines anyway.
Assuming you have a solid relationship otherwise, I think it would be a shame for her not to explore counseling, it might benefit in other areas. Perhaps you could suggest a truce of sorts....no sex pressure, let the issue lie for awhile if you both are willing to work on the issue from a different angle (as in seeing a doc, counselor, together, separate, whatever).
Perhaps that would give her an incentive, if only to get you to stop nagging (pardon the term). She may start counseling for that reason, but I suspect she will continue for the bigger picture.
fyi - I had a difficult episode in my life and after many years finally decided to pick up a few books on the subject due to my bad dreams. LSS I only wish I would have done so sooner, it was one of the best things I ever did for myself.
Good luck, Leah