Re: Wife was or is involved in an emotional affair
I'm in a very similar situation, except my H won't admit it. I have a million red flags, but no solid proof. I do have proof of the lies, though. The problem with this, is that if she is in the fog that comes with an affair, it is just as strong whether emotional or physical. She won't see what you are doing. Marriage counseling is a must, right now, as is complete no contact with the OM. I think that if my H had been willing to do that, we wouldn't be on this road right now. She has a hold on him, and I can't offer the nostalgia of his youth and the illusion of no responsibility that she can offer. No matter how appealing I am, my disapproval of the whole thing pushes him away.
~ You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment if you don't trust enough. ~ Or, you could be a big sap and trust your husband, and he could end up being a lying, spineless, cheater.