Would this be a big deal to those here? I realize it could be a rough area, but would it be a big, big, deal to you?
Ok, I'm going to be honest - I am kind of selfish, and I LIKE being with my man, NO, scratch that, I LOVE
being with my man, and if he didn't want to do things I carefully planned (vacation choices) and hang right along with me, if I felt he was not there "in spirit", I would likely be VERY disturbed (but very unlike your wife, I would have let him know)- because for me
, I am not the type to hang with the girls, I have no sisters, and I crave the romantic togetherness of being with my best friend/lover.
I have a friend who does NOT at all need alot of time with her husband, she is always hanging out with her Mom & family -while he is in the garage with his buddies, it WORKS for THEM. So to each marriage , their own. Nothing wrong with that.
If he was my husband, my family would be totally the last people I would want to drag on vacation & you'd find me hanging out with the guys in the garage. Which might have annoyed him !
So always a ++ to marry someone with the same Love Languages in these areas & good communication skills when these things are not meshing as one may like.
Maybe you would have enjoyed these vacations more so if her family was not along? Maybe you could have suggested this. Personally if I had my family or a bunch of women with me on vacation, chances are I would NOT be upset if my husband wanted to stay back as he would assume I was having fun with them. I can understand WHERE you are coming from also. She should have let you know in some manner.
I understand your tiring of "Board games". I never cared for them much. I do it from time to time for the kids, I have to PUSH myself. Inevitably, I start yawning (especially Monopoly) , I sometimes throw myself on the floor saying "I cant take it anymore, when is this going to end?!! ". Yes, these things are terrible, but when husband wants me to join the kids, I still do it. For a short time. Probably should have continued to join in from time to time -just to show a connection with their fun.