09-29-2008, 04:21 PM
Join Date: Jun 2008
| | Re: Has it gone to far? do you consider it disrespect?
As much as what my husband and I have gone through (he had an affair and I threw him out) he has never called me anything like that. I never do either except once, I do believe in the heat of the moment when I discovered the affair I may have called him something and I definately told him it was over. I really meant it, and I re-keyed the house. However, we have since decided to reconcile and at he does not hold those things against me, he says his behavior caused me to react and accepts responsibility.
As far as this happening regularly, he is not showing you respect and its not ok, even if he apologizes. Tell him that its hurtful and disrepectful and you do not want him to call you these names. Discuss it when everyone is calm, take the emotion out of it and use "I" instead of "you". i.e. I am very hurt when you call me...."
If he continues then you have a difficult to decision to make but its not a good relationship when he's calling you those things.