he is trying to end this marriage on the friendliest and most trusting of terms, so he left one joint credit card there for emergencies till it was all said and done based on trust... and up until now.. she has left that alone.. but then.. she didn't know about me then either... LOL.. now she knows he's moved on and isn't going to leave me.. so a little spite is rearing its head.. I think that priveledge just got yanked.
Well of course she is not liking that he's not even divorced from her and already in a relationship with someone so soon after. Anyone would feel that way. Is your soon to be ex seeing anyone seriously right now?
If neither of you is divorced yet, tread carefully.
It does come across as you both being eachothers' rebound relationship. Going through a divorce is gruelling. I found myself the entire time saying I will never remarry. I just got divorced 2 weeks ago and it's like a little something has lifted for me, but I'm still wary of marriage.
Being fresh off a divorce, I cannot even fathom going on date with someone at this point, let alone being in another relationship so soon afterwards, especially not a "serious" one.
Some folks absolutely DO NOT want to remarry. Ever. Some do want to.
My feeling on this situation is to take him at his word. If he says he's not into marriage again, then believe him. You won't be able to convince him one way or another. Maybe he is saying this now cause of what fallout of his marriage and the divorce and the financial issues that go along with it. Divorce changes a person. It makes you a little more cynical, you lose a certain innocence, and you aren't as "trusting" anymore, if that makes sense. Maybe one day he will change his mind. You have to decide if you are willing to wait for that.
In the interim, it's up to you to decide whether you want to continue this or not.
My advice is, get your divorces (if you haven't already) and go from there.
Nonetheless, you should talk to him about how you're feeling.