10-03-2008, 02:37 PM
Join Date: Sep 2008
Location: Houston, TX
| | Re: am i being over sensitive
I agree with MarkTwain that the state of your marriage is important to help us understand what is going on.
You mentioned that he should respect you and the family as you do by calling at least daily when he is away on a business trip. That is fair. Are you feeling disrespected or unloved?
I can offer this advice / observation. Bear with me, even if you don't believe in the Bible. In the Bible men are commanded not to respect their wife, but to love her. Why? Men by our nature respect. We understand hierarchy and service. However, it is difficult to be loving for men in the way that women, our wives need us to be.
Having said that. Take the time to sit your husband down, and in a loving respectful manner, tell him how you feel and how important it is for him to call while away on business trips.
Let me give you an example from my life. For the longest time my wife would call me if I was a running a few minutes behind when coming home from work. This used to drive me nuts. There were times that I would get up set at her, I felt that she was 'checking up on me'. It wasn't until later that I found out the real motivation was that she was sincerely concerned about my well being and safety. We agreed that if I was running late, that I would give her a call and let her know so that she would not have to worry about me.