Re: I asked him to move out.
GA Heart, keep plugging along, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute. You did the right thing.
My recently divorced friend has gone down your road re: $. She gets a monthly tidy sum from social security for her sons due to the death of their father. Stepdad, who adopted the boys, spent that money all on himself and his hobbies, while the boys did without.
My friend caught him cheating AGAIN, finally said no more, and pulled the plug. The range of emotions and actions this man went through in a short range of time was disturbing, yet fascinating to watch.
He saw his meal ticket was in danger. Turned on the sweet charm. Sure, she had a few backslides (who wouldn't?), but eventually saw through him. He turned on a dime when he realized his meal ticket was indeed gone. And well, you can guess. The tried and true a&&hole came out because that's what he is. an A&&hole. That's who he is by default. Sounds like your ex is cut from the same cloth.
Don't believe a word that comes out of his mouth, even the good things. It's all a smokescreen to win his meal ticket back.
Chin up, buttercup. It gets better. I promise. Although it doesn't feel like it, time is your friend right now. You'll get stronger every day.
Even though he 'settled' by being with you (for f&ck's sake OUCH), but that doesn't mean you have to settle for him.
Hang onto that anger and use it to propel you forward. You need it right now.