Re: I asked him to move out.
I came up with something tonight that I think makes some sense. (Although I might not be able to convey it well over the internet, bare with me.)
In the months/weeks leading up to this split, I would occasionally mention that I didn't feel very appreciated. (Which makes sense in hindsight.....if he didn't really have a romantic kind of love for me, he didn't do anything romantic or sweet. No little gestures, grunts of disdain when I would ask for a foot rub or back scratch, lack of lovemaking, etc.) But whenever I would mention not feeling appreciated, he would say the exact same thing! I couldn't understand how on EARTH he would feel unappreciated when I loved on him, scratched his back, did my chores, listened to him, tried to make him happy, TOLD him how much I appreciated him, etc. It always seemed like to me he was feeling like I should appreciate the fact that he was just WITH me. (And at the time, I just thought he was slipping into more and more self-centered-ness.)
Tonight it dawned on me that yes, that's EXACTLY what he felt, but not why he felt that way.
Since he "settled" for me, it must've been a struggle for him to just be with me, KNOWING that I wanted all his love. And he must've been trying very hard to give me what he didn't have to give. So he did feel unappreciated because he WAS unhappy and he was giving it all HE had, and knew it wasn't enough and that *I* wasn't happy. I don't think he did this with conscious thought, however.
Does that make sense?