Cheri

When my husband and I were dating around four years ago his sister came to visit. He told her one night that she was hot. When I later asked him why he would say that to his sister he said to boost her self-esteem. I asked why not tell her she looks nice, or she is pretty. I thought that was odd statement to say to a sister. Then, a few months ago when they were having conversation on the phone I heard him tell her "I will tie you to a tree naked". He was saying it in the context of them joking around, but I thought that was very strange. Am I overreacting? I like his sister and not jealous of her at all. We always get along very well. I just think this is weird behavior between sister and brother. Please give me your advice. His family will be visiting again from out-of-state soon and I need to deal with this.

MGirl

I just asked my husband about this and he said that's not something he'd stress about. He and his younger sister make all kinds of strange jokes that other people would likely think are strange. It all depends on family dynamics. If that's how they joke around/talk with each other, it's just normal for them. Maybe not so much to you, but for them, yes.

Don't worry about it

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meridian.1960

I would have to agree with Mgirl.

I have 4 sisters, 3 of which would fall over dead at such a comment from me. The fourth one just simply has this same personality.

It's who she is, so I have no problem goofing around with her on this level.

It's no big deal. Even my wife understands that this is just who she is. My wife will joke around with her in the same fasion, even though that is not my wifes normal personality.

In my humble opinion, If it's not hurting anyone, I think you should just leave it alone.

jmbr

Hi,

I got a very close relationship with my sister. Started very sourly when we were young, but matured, and we were like best friends, when we went to college almost at same time.

We could talk about everything, freely, without any sort of prudeness. We even do nowadays, and some of the conversations are a bit spicy. I poke her about her boyfriend, She about my wife, She throws a barb at me, I reply back, and we laugh. It's just us being a bit dorky.

She also had weight problems when She was a teen, and was the casue of much anxiety/depression for her, so when She got slimmer, all dressed up, hair done and all, I tell her She is looking very hot and sexy. I don't even have the slightest ounce of desire for her(heaven forbid thought has never crossed my mind ever), I am simply trying to make her feel good, confident about herself.

So, atleast in my experience, I would not worry too much.

Latigo

Cheri,
What you described is pretty benign compaired to some of the things I have been witness to (with bros & sises). Sounds like they are just really comfortable with each other. I wish I got along with my sister so well. But, if this sort of thing bothers you, that is what matters. Best to have another conversation with you husband.