Mother In Law

tammy1972 · 05-05-2011, 12:51 PM

Without going into to much detail ..Last year my husband and I split up for about 8 months and now we are happier than ever. During the time we were apart we both told our parents what was going on. Now y mother in law wont accept me as a frind on FB. She says she loves me and is behind with whatever choices my husband make. What to make of this.

trey69 · 05-05-2011, 12:53 PM

Have you asked her why she wont accept you as a friend on there? if so, what has she said?

MGirl · 05-05-2011, 12:56 PM

Why is having her as a facebook friend so important to you?

tammy1972 · 05-05-2011, 01:00 PM

Its not really important. I don't loose any sleep over it. Before the split she a friend on FB and now she's not. I just think its odd that she won't accept it. My husband says its no big deal and its not. Just weird

MGirl · 05-05-2011, 01:04 PM

How long ago did you and your husband reconcile? Perhaps she's not quite trustful at this point. Best way is to just ask her, though.

tammy1972 · 05-05-2011, 01:11 PM

We have been back together almost a year

magnoliagal · 05-05-2011, 01:29 PM

Eh don't take it personally and let it go. My FIL I think is still upset with me that my husband gave up his corporate job to become a police officer (like that was my idea) and that was 15 years ago.

elo123 · 05-05-2011, 02:42 PM

you married your husband....everyone else is in the perhiphery, so dont worry about it!

I friended my sister in law but she never replied. Maybe its because she hears all our crap from my wife and will always side with her. To me it doesnt matter, just as long as my wife and I can work things out, which is alot further ahead than my sister in law will ever be.

In laws are so crazy...sometimes for real, sometimes it is from our perception because we werent raised by them, so some of their behaviors will always seem so wacky.

wishing-I-wasn't-here · 05-05-2011, 04:12 PM

Not everyone uses Facebook every day, or even really knows how to use it properly. My mother is on Facebook, doesn't really know how to use it, and was getting stressed out about all of the friend requests she was getting. She didn't really know how to accept them/what to do with the whole thing. Additionally, some people rarely log in to Facebook and don't really use it. They have an account but are never on there. Maybe your MIL is the same? Or did she specify that she didn't want to be friends with you?

SimplyAmorous · 05-05-2011, 04:26 PM

So long as you have other people in your life, lots of family & friends, why let this bother you. I agree, it is kinda childish of HER to not accept you again-if you have asked once you got back together with her son. Not everyone forgives & accepts again so easily. I have found in my life, women are the worst in this area.

I have a step sister, been friends since BIRTH, over the most mindless things, will delete me from her facebook (the last thing had nothing at all to do between me & her but something I did with other friends), so I let her do her thing. It is a little annoying but I am used to this behavior by now.

So I just go on with my life, when I see her out & about, I am genuinely glad to see her, and pretty much act the same towards her. And she always ends up coming back around to me, starts calling again.

I refuse to be offended by people who are too sensitve and have trouble with forgiving & accepting when we did little to nothing to hurt them. If we did, we need to apologize & put outselves out there . (only you know if this needs done somewhere in your life with your MIL ?? )

Life is too short. Some you will never please. You must look at this --as more of a reflection of who they are. Be kind in spite of it , love & care for her son and ... likely SHE will come around.