05-05-2011, 11:44 PM
Join Date: May 2011
| | Communication issues
My wife is obsessed with a rock band. Whenever they are in our area she goes. She stalks their bus afterward and has hung out with them at a bar. I know she is very attracted to one of the members of the band, and it really stings when I see her constantly twittering him. I don't know if he responds alot to her twitters, but she seems really into it. She goes to these concerts with a friend she met online, and I have never really met this woman. I admit I have poor self esteem, but I feel she would be hurt if I were the one chasing around a woman I was really attracted to.
Another problem is she is very closed as far as communication is concerned. She doesn't tell me anything unless I ask and then gets mad at me for asking. We have been married 11 years, and I love her very much. We have two awesome children and I love my family. Another thing I have an issue with is our sex life, which is almost nonexistant. She will never initiate it and when I do, sometimes she pushes me away. If we have sex once a month, that is a lot.
One other thing is she doesn't go out often, but when she does, it never includes me. We don't ever go anywhere by ourselves, it is always all of us or us separetly with our friends. Sometimes her friends will have their husbands along, and I'm not invited. Another thing with the band is that she has probably a thousand pictures of them all over our computer and in the 11 years we've been together, we have maybe 10 or so together or even just of me.
I'm not an unattractive person, but this makes me feel like she isn't attracted to me. Am I reading too much into this? All I know is that I love her alot and I do not want to get a divorce. Please help.