05-06-2011, 08:37 AM
Join Date: Dec 2010
| | Re: Mother's Day.
I used to that all the time. Remind my husband of mothers day, birthdays, etc, etc, and buy the cards or whatever, because I knew if I didn't he wouldn't remember.
Then one day, I thought to myself, why should I remember to remind him of mothers day, fathers day, family birthdays etc, and get cards and all that.
I wasn't doing him any favors by continuing to do that. Mostly what I reminded him of was HIS family's birthdays and mother and fathers day, and bought stuff for. I stopped doing that, because it really wasn't up to me, and not my responsibility. So I left it up to him. After a few missed events like birthdays etc, he would get embarrassed, so then he started to remember on his own. So now he does it.
If I had felt appreciated or not so much like I was being his mother when I did it, it might have been different. BUT at the same time, he has a brain and should remember certain things on his own.
"If you always do what you've always done, you will always get what you've always gotten."