hitrockbottom

well here is my current status. I have decided to move out of my house. I talked 2 my wife after another night out and her not coming home. I told her I couldn't handle the amount of disrespect while we were under one roof.
I packed all my clothes. shutting my business down temporary..and went to TX for work.

I told her that we need time apart. Right now all we are doing is smothering each other. if she felt the same when I come back then I will file with her.

I have been in TX for 2 weeks. talked to her the other day 4 the first time...good talk. It was my birthday.

I don't know if we will make it or not. I know at this point I am home sick..but toughing it out. I know that if I came home tomorrow it would be too soon. I knowi love her as she does me.....she actually kissed me and said I Love you bfore I left.

I don't want to hassle her and I want to give her the needed space...long distant space.

I want to keep contact but at what increments and how do I play my cards you know? I've already said all that can be said...i just hope that time apart will bring us closer.

any suggestions out there I'm open.
if she has said that It is over...but then tells me she loves me and 2 be careful?

She is angry....how do I help her through that?
here is one for the women......how can you tell if they still care and if you make progres?

also how do you ask her/tell her that you value the marriage and you want to make it work...if she seems to be shut off from the idea...
I know it is in the timing but when is it too late? and how long till you know?

MarkTwain

How dare she be angry with you.

Don't call her, let her call you. You need to realise that life can go on without her. Work on yourself, and learn to love yourself more. Personally I would not go back to her unless I had an apology in writing, promising me love and affection by the bucket full. And if she short-changed me ever again I would be gone for ever. No if buts or ands.

bhappy3

If I recall correctly, you have no kids together, and her family is living in the house at "home"...???

Why not suggest that she come visit you in TX - but I'd give things some time to cool off. I seriously think that there is no way you two can work on things with another family being in your house... your safe place from the rest of the world.

What about an open marriage? I know, it's unorthodox, but maybe it's something that might work for you two, so you wouldn't have to be without her? Just a really long shot, just a suggestion. I know it works for some.

Thanks for the update... it was what I came here looking for tonight. =)

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AZMOMOFTWO

I agree with MT. You've done what you can and showed her you loved her. Its her turn to contact you. If not, you have to move on.