Re: Mid-Life Crisis or Walk-Away Wife Syndrome
She has claimed everything from me being too controlling to not having her needs met for years, although she has not communicated clearly any of what this means or at all till the day she told me she wanted out.
When asked for an example on how I am controlling she claimed when I asked when I could expect her home from a party, that this was me controlling her. I explained I was only doing this to know if there is a point to be worried, which I probably learned from the parents. She also highlight some arguements from months and years past, that were really not that bad in my eyes, but maybe I am wrong.
I understand she is claiming the unhappiness which really surprises me, because she seems mostly happy, outside of a stressful job and we have spent much time together going to church, walks, vacations, etc. I don't seethe unhappiness.
Almost everyone I know along with myself thought we had a great marriage, which now does not seem like it to either of us. There are no kids so that is not what is keeping her in. I really do not get it, but suspect her older sister who has never been married and regularly in and out of relationships, plus works with her is not giving her the good example that our situation could use.