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Lately I've been feeling like I don't even want to be with my gf much less anyone else.

Things with us have been very rushed, moved in after 1 month, got an apartment after 6 months, a puppy right after. All the while her not having trust in me. On top of that her constantly asking when I will ask her to marry her. About 3 months in I told her to never ever ask me that again, and when I am ready I will ask, if she wasn't willing to wait then she could leave.

The sad part about this, its very close to how my relationship was before her, the one before that and the one before that one as well. Either I must really suck at picking the right one, or its really like this. Any girl I feel love towards will be this much work.

So back to the true reason I'm asking for help. I am not very happy with my ... outcome? I am perfectly fine with my job IF I can come home to do what I love. However I come home to washing dishes, picking up dog ****, washing clothing, and making dinner. While my gf has a seasonal part time job, uses the money for her "business" and I am shafted with the bills and no time to myself. I feel cheated. The hours she is gone I enjoy to much, I wished I had more.

So I am left with the decision. Tell her to go, or shape up. But i feel like its just easier to tell her to go. :\ any thoughts?

PBear

If the same problem happens over and over with different women, you need to look at the one thing in common in all those relationships...

Have you talked to her about how you feel? She should be the reason you want to come home. Why did you rush into things? Why did you move in together in the first place?

My thought... You can start working on this relationship and try to learn more about yourself and what you're really wanting. If you don't start doing that, you're doomed to keep repeating. Even if in the end, she's not the one for you. Either that, or give up on women and become a hermit.

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Jellybeans

If you aren't into the relationship, you are doing both of you a disservice by staying in it. It's not fair to either of you.

Do you jump from relationship to relationship? If that is the problem, spend some time alone.

You said you have a pattern of sounding like you get bored easily. Is there also a pattern of moving in after just one month with all of these ladies?

You need to slow down. 30 days of meeting someone and living with them = bad move, captain. Get to know the people you're dating before making such an INSANELY huge decision (living together).

If you don't figure out why you do this and commit to changing, you are always going to find yourself in this situation.

My Rx: spend time alone, be alone, date yourself. Really get to know yourself before involving yourself in these fast-track relationships.

4sure

Let her go. Why keep her around when you don't want her there.

unbelievable

Honestly, it sounds like you don't really want a marriage or serious relationship. That's not an indictment, just my opinion based on your post. I'm not selling marriage and it's financially a bad deal for most guys. If your idea of happiness at this stage in life is to go to work and come home and just have fun, why not focus in the sort of relationship that brings that result about? Instead of getting a gf and setting up housekeeping (which naturally makes them think they're getting married), be honest and find a female roomate with benefits. Tell her up front how expenses and chores will be shared.
There are women who aren't interested in marriage at the moment and some probably live near you. No false claims of love, no misunderstandings or apprehensions about marriage, making babies, or picking out china patterns. Share a roof, expenses, and exclusive sex. It's simple, it's fair and it's honest.
Later, if you decide you need more from a relationship, you can always toss your line back in the water.