Re: Why does my husband lie to his friends and family about me?
I am with him because our agreement years ago was to get through what broke our marriage, 2009 we were working on repairing our family, doing great at it and the bomb dropped on all 5 of us. So we had to get through that, then he ended up quicking his job of 24 years. He said when I brought up we needed to work harder on our marriage after the thing that happened in Janaury now he goes and blames me when in reality it isn't either one of our faults, I was just doing what a mom, wife, and someone working would do, yeah I was depressed but my goal was to fix what happened, same as last year. However he then says it didn't happen over night (marriage trouble) and can't be fixed overnight and right then was not the time to work on the marriage. So I laid off for a while. Well it is now May and I brought it up again, he tells me again, it isn't gonna be fixed overnight, too much water under the bridge, maybe I shouldn't of turned him down to sex back with the kids were under 6, and so on. So I tell him again, well then let me go, well he doesn't want to. But he does not get I miss affection, I miss being loved, I miss the warmth of a man, I miss being a woman and doing couple things.
So now we are here in our life, I am disabled and cannot work. I have mobility issues and rely on him to do the husband type of things that my 18 year old can't do. So I am stuck, he doesn't want out, but doesn't want to work at it. I am caught in the middle of lies, he won't tell these women he lied to them etc.
I am not sure what his problem is, why he has to dog me unless it is to get sympathy from woman to feel the affection he won't let me give him (sometimes I don't want to anymore because it isn't appreciated). He even told me once, when he was complaining about my "housework". I told him I am doing the best I can, his reply was "well your best isn't good enough".
When I cry he thinks I am a baby, I am just so broken at this point. I feel if woman would stay out of our lives it wouldn't be so bad, but they think I am the bad guy when Im not.