Ok, so there is this girl who I have been talking to and hanging out with lately. The problem is, she is the ex of my (former) bestfriend and they were off and on for 3 years. The friend of mine, I barely speak to him anymore, were just not on great terms anymore. Weve pretty much went our seperate ways. We still talk from time to time, but i barely consider him a friend anymore. Me and her just started talking recently after she said she said he was done with him but he is not even close to over her. I was always kind of interested in her, but it seems like she started chasing me more than anything, I never went after her. Well, her chasing me has kind of led somewhere and now were hanging out and talking alot. Things aren't too physical yet, I feel like there is a barrier becuase it still feels wierd to me, like when were alone, it's gotten to the point where it's ok, but when we are in public and other people who know the situation, it still feels wierd to flirt or do much of anything physical. I would have never envisioned this to happen, but things happen and I don't care at this point if I'm a "bad friend" for this becuase he's already done his damage that ****ed up our friendship. I just don't know what to do becuase I tried to keep myself from liking her and I'm starting to a little bit... help!
Since you and your best friend broke up before you started seeing this girl, I really don't see a problem. However, if you wish to rekindle your friendship with this guy, it could be a problem. It sort of depends on which direction you hope to go. Did this girl break up with your former friend to start seeing you?
Seriously, though, much the same once happened to me. College roommate burned bridges with our circle of friends - moved out of our apt with only one week's notice, left another friend high and dry for someplace to live the following fall, broke up with his gf/fiancée without doing her the courtesy of telling her...just stopped calling, transferred job locations, and started seeing one of his employees - so we all decided we'd much rather stay friends with his gf. Being the one who knew her best, I got in touch with her and we started hanging out, which led to dating, which led to a relationship that lasted for almost 4 years. Found out she'd had a slight crush on me while dating my roommate.
If you two like each other, there's no reason not to explore whatever chemistry you might have.
The one place I'd advise you to tread carefully is to be wary of being the "rebound guy.". Ultimately, that's what I ended up being. I fell for her, bit she didn't really fall for me. She was conflicted on the exact nature of our relationship sometimes. At times, she would get upset at the notion of being considered my "girlfriend," but the worst fight we ever had was because I didn't introduce her as such at a co-worker's wedding reception.
Ultimately, though, if the former friend is essentially out of the picture for good, and you're both attracted to one another, it's probably worth finding out where it might lead. Posted via Mobile Device
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