05-20-2011, 08:06 AM
Join Date: Nov 2009
| | Re: Clingy mother in law + uncommunicative husband
NOTHING will change so long as he is living there. He needs to be with his wife and children, this is his vows, this is what is suppossed to BE. When you marry, you leave your mother & father. If his Mother was a balanced woman-wanting what is best for her son & his family, she would understand these things & push for him to do the right thing, even if it means she will be loosing him. I wonder if her relationship with the father is strained so she depends on the son? This happens many times unfortunetly. Much Boundary crossing going on.
I am curious what brought the 2 of you together in the 1st place? He was reared by these people, likely he had similar beliefs about politics, education, discipline -before you married. Was these things never discussed?
It is very very tough when you marry someone who does not share the same values & beliefs. Most of us are very stubborn when it comes to these things, they are somehow a part of us, and usually remain so.
If you & him are polar opposites, I would say to make this work, you both will have to compromise in many areas.
Does he work throughout the week- is this what keeps him at his mothers house?