05-22-2011, 02:05 PM
Join Date: Mar 2011
| | Re: Lack of Affection or Attention?
Originally Posted by nynaeve3
During the first few months I remember him being affectionate, he used to say affectionate things. However, we've been having the discussion mentioned in my afore post for years, certainly the majority of our relationship (together 7 years). He would tell you he is affectionate, but just in different ways - in ways he values affection - such as support. He does support me a lot if I'm feeling down or something, he'll spend time with me until I feel better or try and get me out, he once spent ages getting a load of articles together for me for an assignment because I'm useless at research, he comes to most places with me regardless of whether it's his thing... he just isn't good with the random hugs or kisses or verbal affection... I know I'm sounding ungrateful now
just was interested to know whether he's a rare breed
Your husband sounds exactly like mine in this regard. Exactly. We both read the 5 love languages together, but I think it did me more good than him. He still has issues finding the right "moments" and for some reason if I ask for it it just doesn't seem right :P
I'm really working on not caring about it too much. My self worth should come from myself (and God), and not from other people. I know he values me and he definitely shows it in other things that he does for me.