How do you think you would feel if you were he?
Do you think you would work toward fixing your marriage?
Your husband feels picked on, accused, berated, you name it. He has no encouragement to change anything with these two women constantly telling him he is wrong and constantly jumping down his case.
Marriage counseling should not be ANYTHING like that for either partner. You would feel terrible if the shoe were on the other foot but as it is, you feel victorious, vindicated, and superior, while your husband is being made to feel like sh*t on a stick.
Individual counseling is for the purpose of building a person up, particularly when there is a need for them to feel like somebody is on their side. However, that is not at all what marriage counseling is about. A good marriage counselor does not take sides. S/he doesn't even try to pick through or work at any kind of laundry list of complaints - not his and not yours. This is the reason people should never go to individual counselors for marriage counseling. They have their own way of doing things and might be very good at that, but they usually have no idea how to conduct couples counseling sessions. They just devise their own process based on what they normally do with individuals.
Marriage counselors are non-biased and have altogether different techniques. Instead of trying to judge who is right and who is wrong or trying to settle every argument and complaint, they teach the two of you how to do that yourselves without them having to place either of you under the radar. They teach you how to communicate, how to actively listen to each other, and the meaning of compromise. Their processes are goal-oriented and teach you how to go about accomplishing those goals. Marriagebuilders.com
is a good place for me to direct you since I have no idea of any real marriage counselors in your area. You and your husband should both read the articles and do the worksheets/questionnaires. But, I do suggest you find a counselor or center that specializes in marriage counseling.