Re: Husband with anger issues
I mainly wanted to let you know you're not alone. My OH has had (different) serious escalation/reaction issues, and has largely dealt with them, anyway to a degree that makes us happier and me less afraid, and has put the relationship on a more even keel. We're now getting to a stage where I think that happier state will help him feel more comfortable and 'need' to react badly should reduce. I'd say the most important thing in your post is that (a) he knows it (b) acknowledges it out loud (c) whatever his anger you've had the strength to talk the difficult talks about being together, children, etc. I'm literally rushing to get kid out of bed, to school,etc., and anyway others are far more articulate!!!!!!! but good luck and the main thing I've learned from TAM is that the only person you can work on is you........ so all you can do is be the best you possible, not that you have to take any BLAME as such for his behaviour, but maybe look at whether honestly you ever have been responsible for pushing triggers unnecessarily (seems not from the dog incident). I certainly don't mean you to think I'm switching the responsibility, not at all... just to repeat, you can't make him change, you can't be responsible for his behaviour or reactions, you just have to deal with you. Oh, and your analysis of the situation being frustrating and consuming is SO accurate, many people will relate to those words.