I am trying to save my marriage of eighteen years. My issues are all around lack of respect, anger, tantrums, bullying coming from my husband. Not all the time - there are times he is the best husband in the world. Until there is stressful situation. Or even not.
I know that there are people here admitting to be like this in the past, or still, who are trying to work on it. I would like to get some insight from you, without accusations and judgement. I am just feeling hopeless right now and trying to understand more.
Why do you yell at your spouse? Why would you think it is acceptable? How do you feel afterwards? Does this relieve your tension? Do you worry about hurting your spouse? Is hurting your spouse the purpose? Do you own it later, or do you tell your spouse that she/he is too sensitive?
If you changed this and started controlling your emotions more - what was the reason? What made you change?
I know that there are people here admitting to be like this in the past, or still, who are trying to work on it. I would like to get some insight from you, without accusations and judgement. I am just feeling hopeless right now and trying to understand more.
Why do you yell at your spouse? Why would you think it is acceptable? How do you feel afterwards? Does this relieve your tension? Do you worry about hurting your spouse? Is hurting your spouse the purpose? Do you own it later, or do you tell your spouse that she/he is too sensitive?
If you changed this and started controlling your emotions more - what was the reason? What made you change?