05-31-2011, 06:34 AM
Join Date: Apr 2010
| | How long can it take
Over a year now with my challenges in my marriage which at one point were the happiest in my life. Just had a 16 year anniversary which was not even celebrated. We honestly had 13 awesome years. We used to be best friends who enjoyed life to the fullest and all it has to offer.
Finances, life changing diagnosis of my wife with MS, job layoff all of which came in the last 3 years along with the challenges of raising children have certainly played a part in the strain, but I feel like I am fighting this battle completely alone now. I agreed in Feb to move out and give us space and time to minimize tension at home with the children who are all of my life at this point.
Going on 5 months of living outside of my own home now. We truly both love our kids and want the best for them no matter the outcome.
I am not a quitter and will continue to do everything to position and allow our marriage to be a happy one once again. Reality is that we all get one chance in life, one chance with building a happy family and I am not willing to let that go. On the other hand, my wife seems to have zero initiative to smooth things out, forgive and look to the future to continue to build positive memories for us and our kids.
Does anyone have any advice on getting your wife to engage with actually working on the marriage and not throwing in the towel.