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so ive been married for less than 5 years now and have an infant son with my husband, to better get the picture we had a whirlwind romance which lead to a short engagement and wedding. my s.o. (significant other) and I come from two different backgrounds him with a not loving family life and me with a very loving family and also he was poor and i wasnt rich but middle class. my problem? no communication, no emotion, no facial expressions from him and if i do get one its precious. i try to let it not bother me but i think since he grew up so differently than me hes just not capable of showing any emotion. i am a stay at home mom and he owns his own business that he runs out of the house so we are always around each other and even tho i try to talk to him and get some emotion( like excitement for a new project or our sons first words) he just says cool or some other non committal word and goes back to the garage or his computer or phone. please help me for sometimes i feel like i would rather not have him around rather than a zombie dad who shows no love for his wife.
 
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Perhaps you both need to change some. But you can only change yourself, so that's a good place to start.

There are some books that I think will help you.

"Divorce Busting"
"His Needs, Her Needs"
"Love Busters"

How many hours a week do the two of you spend together, just the two of you doing date-like things?
 
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i will definitely check out those books thanks!

so we never go on dates or do any date like things and i'm very lucky if we eat a meal together even though i cook almost every night. my birthday was recently and i didn't get a card or a thank you for being a great mother. we don't watch movies together, i ask him how his day was or what project he's working on and he acknowledges me but then goes back to his computer and doesn't answer me even though i'm standing right there waiting for his answer. what's even worse is that i've been having dreams where he's cheating on me and he acts like he does in real life, nonchalant nonemotional and he breaks my heart. my dreams are so real that i wake up and i can't forget them...
 
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