Looking for both men's and women's perspectives on this topic. My wife and I have extremely opposite views on what is appropriate to post on social media (FB).
She sees no issue with posting what I think are very revealing photos because they are appropriate for the setting. Example: Full body shot in a tiny bikini if at a beach or at the pool with all but the few inches of her body that are covered on display for the whole world to see.
Her response when I say I don't think it's entirely appropriate for FB is that she's at the beach and everyone wears a swimsuit at the beach. While I agree completely, I don't think all of her coworkers, my coworkers and family, etc. need to see every bit of her almost naked body. I have no problem with her wearing a bikini- and appreciate that she looks great in it in her mid 40's- but I just think a little modesty when it comes to revealing clothes or swimwear is not too much to ask when it comes to social media.
I don't ever want to come across as jealous or controlling because that's not it at all- and I would not tell her what to do or wear- I just am more conservative when it comes to public appearance. I know from a guys perspective that if I routinely saw a female coworkers pictures like that on FB that I would view her differently- and I know how most every guy in the office would talk about her- and I respect my wife more than that. Her philosophy is: if they want to look then look- who cares- they're never going to get it- and that it's totally harmless. I love confidence, but I wish there was a little more modesty in certain situations.
Help! Thoughts? Thanks!
She sees no issue with posting what I think are very revealing photos because they are appropriate for the setting. Example: Full body shot in a tiny bikini if at a beach or at the pool with all but the few inches of her body that are covered on display for the whole world to see.
Her response when I say I don't think it's entirely appropriate for FB is that she's at the beach and everyone wears a swimsuit at the beach. While I agree completely, I don't think all of her coworkers, my coworkers and family, etc. need to see every bit of her almost naked body. I have no problem with her wearing a bikini- and appreciate that she looks great in it in her mid 40's- but I just think a little modesty when it comes to revealing clothes or swimwear is not too much to ask when it comes to social media.
I don't ever want to come across as jealous or controlling because that's not it at all- and I would not tell her what to do or wear- I just am more conservative when it comes to public appearance. I know from a guys perspective that if I routinely saw a female coworkers pictures like that on FB that I would view her differently- and I know how most every guy in the office would talk about her- and I respect my wife more than that. Her philosophy is: if they want to look then look- who cares- they're never going to get it- and that it's totally harmless. I love confidence, but I wish there was a little more modesty in certain situations.
Help! Thoughts? Thanks!