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Men Disrespect Women Because They are Afraid of Them?

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I listen to a Christian Psychology call-in talk radio show on my 30 minute drive to my bi-weekly counseling sessions. During yesterday's show, a woman called in describing the disrespectful and narcissistic behavior of her husband.

The psychologist made two interesting and thought provoking statements.

1. Men disrespect women because they are afraid of women.

2. Women choose the wrong men when they are not pursuing and involved with the correct kind of/authentic relationships with other women.

What do you think?
 
#2 ·
I listen to a Christian Psychology call-in talk radio show on my 30 minute drive to my bi-weekly counseling sessions. During yesterday's show, a woman called in describing the disrespectful and narcissistic behavior of her husband.

The psychologist made two interesting and thought provoking statements.

1. Men disrespect women because they are afraid of women.

2. Women choose the wrong men when they are not pursuing and involved with the correct kind of/authentic relationships with other women.

What do you think?

Fist of all, what does the bolded mean?
 
#3 ·
I can see the truth of the first one. Not sure I understand the second, though.
 
#4 · (Edited)
That one gave me pause/confusion as well, which is why I'm asking. Basically he said if women don't have female friendships that are good for them (wise friends who will give advice, guide them, tell them when they're making a mistake I guess), they are more apt to have a bad picker.
 
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Hmm at first glance this comes across as the old feminist propaganda message of: Man=bad, women=good. Women don't need men. Women better off with women because men are bad.

Underlying that is a more accurate message like...Some people (not just Men) will be disrespectful of others due to insecurities, narcissism, or a host of other possible reasons including they had a bad day and you were the next available target. Some are just A-holes.

When we let people treat us badly it is because we allow them to do it. In other cases some people are just mean and nasty. The only thing you have control over is YOU and how you chose to handle your situations.

A strong group of people (friends) you can trust is a benefit to women and men. We sometimes isolate ourselves in our relationships and lose a same sex support structure. Good, loyal and supportive friends are always a good thing for both men and women. But you also have to be open and honest relationship with your partner too.

Finally I have seen and experienced women be meaner, nastier and crueler than any man. So this is not a gender specific issue. People are people: Good and bad.
 
#8 ·
Definitely not gender specific. The caller happened to be a woman talking about a man, but it goes both ways. I was mostly interested because I'm a woman who has been disrespected badly by a man, who has a lot of mommy/abuse issues from childhood he refuses to deal with. When I originally "chose" him 20 years ago, my female friendships were solid, flourishing and encouraging. But, when I "re-chose" him (reconciled last year, splitting again), not quite as much, although not totally lacking.
 
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Yeah I can see being disrespectful out of fear, or anger, or what they were shown as kids. I have been disrespected by a woman and it wasn't out of what I did but her fear of being happy and secure because she never had it...never saw it....didn't know how to live in it. So yes I think both genders can be mean and cruel, disrespectful and sabotage or destroy their own relationships. I think much of that is related to fear.
 
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I agree, NTA. Steven Covey said in 7 Habits that a gang of thieves can share the same values. He said that what is important is to share principles.
 
#15 ·
I think maybe the first theorum can be clarified.

Men TREAT women with disrespect because of their male insecurities.
Their disrespect is not genuine, it is feigned in order to compensate for their own lack of self respect.

Actually, this is true across the board. People who treat other people with contempt usually do so because their own egos are fragile and need constant feeding and attention to prop themselves up.

People who have genuine healthy self confidence are the people least likely to treat others disrespectfully, but again, it is a feigned disrespect, not real.

As to men being afraid of women; IMHO, yes that can be a factor in disrespecting them, however, I would rather say they are more ANGRY than afraid at women. Angry because women see through them and don't give them what they want when they want it.
 
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As to men being afraid of women; IMHO, yes that can be a factor in disrespecting them, however, I would rather say they are more ANGRY than afraid at women.
And as MEM says, anger is just hurt or fear.
 
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