I'll try to make this short as possible because who really likes to read a huge wall of text,right?
My girlfriend and I were together for 6 years. About 2 years ago she became seriously ill (parkinson's,ruptured disc) and had to quit her job. After about a year of that she and the kids moved out of the house and into her mom's claiming that we would still be together but it would just be easier financially on me. Needless to say that lasted about 2 weeks. After about a month we started getting together again. So basically for the past few months I have been giving her an ear when she needs it,helping feed her and the kids,sex (of course),talking everyday. Basically I've given her everything from a boyfriend without the commitment. However,2 weeks ago she signed up on an online dating site. She told me about it. However,claiming she wanted to make friends. Of course I did not believe her. This past Sunday she finally added a guy onto her facebook. Which after noticing that I told her once again I'm really not comfortable with the whole thing. We have barely spoken since but yet she is online all the time obviously talking to him. I tried giving her a couple days of space and didn't say a word. I finally started trying to talk to her but she seems completely disinterested.
The kids think of me as their dad. Their real dad is out of the picture and I really love them as well. I've never missed anything of theirs. Which is also a downside to all this. With her not feeling up to company I don't get to see them either. So basically I'm losing 3 people that are very important to me.
Over the course of the past year. She has been severely depressed. Her mom takes all her child support and food stamps she applied for. She got $20,000 from stock in her old company and her mom talked to her into spending it all on a brand new car. A couple months back she started cutting herself. I've caught her in numerous lies but they were small so let it slide. I absolutely love this woman to death but as is I cannot trust her. She has seen a psychiatrist who says she has aspergers. She has written and called her psychistrist a few times who wants to refer her to another but the referral still hasn't called and she says her psychiatrist doesn't return her calls or write her back. She says she wrote to tell her psychiatrist but she never returns her emails or phone calls anymore. I only have what she says to go on about this.
I can accept that some of this is my fault by acting as a placeholder. I know I have to figure out how to move past her because this isn't going to work. I asked her earlier to pack up all my things that are over there and she never replied. I'm thinking of texting her again later tonight and just telling her once again to pack up my stuff and I'll be over there tomorrow to get it and that I'm not a toy she can pick up and put down whenever she feels like it. She knows I'm the only person she can count on. She's told me that.
I'm extremely shy around new people and in all honesty,I don't have any friends. Which also is my fault because back in the beginning she would get mad that I would go out with them 2 or 3 times a week (prior to living together). I can't resist her and she knows it. Basically, I have no idea how to get out of this mess.
Any advice? Thanks in advance and sorry if anything is unclear. If questions about something I'll definitely try to answer a little more clearly.
My girlfriend and I were together for 6 years. About 2 years ago she became seriously ill (parkinson's,ruptured disc) and had to quit her job. After about a year of that she and the kids moved out of the house and into her mom's claiming that we would still be together but it would just be easier financially on me. Needless to say that lasted about 2 weeks. After about a month we started getting together again. So basically for the past few months I have been giving her an ear when she needs it,helping feed her and the kids,sex (of course),talking everyday. Basically I've given her everything from a boyfriend without the commitment. However,2 weeks ago she signed up on an online dating site. She told me about it. However,claiming she wanted to make friends. Of course I did not believe her. This past Sunday she finally added a guy onto her facebook. Which after noticing that I told her once again I'm really not comfortable with the whole thing. We have barely spoken since but yet she is online all the time obviously talking to him. I tried giving her a couple days of space and didn't say a word. I finally started trying to talk to her but she seems completely disinterested.
The kids think of me as their dad. Their real dad is out of the picture and I really love them as well. I've never missed anything of theirs. Which is also a downside to all this. With her not feeling up to company I don't get to see them either. So basically I'm losing 3 people that are very important to me.
Over the course of the past year. She has been severely depressed. Her mom takes all her child support and food stamps she applied for. She got $20,000 from stock in her old company and her mom talked to her into spending it all on a brand new car. A couple months back she started cutting herself. I've caught her in numerous lies but they were small so let it slide. I absolutely love this woman to death but as is I cannot trust her. She has seen a psychiatrist who says she has aspergers. She has written and called her psychistrist a few times who wants to refer her to another but the referral still hasn't called and she says her psychiatrist doesn't return her calls or write her back. She says she wrote to tell her psychiatrist but she never returns her emails or phone calls anymore. I only have what she says to go on about this.
I can accept that some of this is my fault by acting as a placeholder. I know I have to figure out how to move past her because this isn't going to work. I asked her earlier to pack up all my things that are over there and she never replied. I'm thinking of texting her again later tonight and just telling her once again to pack up my stuff and I'll be over there tomorrow to get it and that I'm not a toy she can pick up and put down whenever she feels like it. She knows I'm the only person she can count on. She's told me that.
I'm extremely shy around new people and in all honesty,I don't have any friends. Which also is my fault because back in the beginning she would get mad that I would go out with them 2 or 3 times a week (prior to living together). I can't resist her and she knows it. Basically, I have no idea how to get out of this mess.
Any advice? Thanks in advance and sorry if anything is unclear. If questions about something I'll definitely try to answer a little more clearly.